Tuesday, May 27, 2014

QUICK TO BLAME

Over the weekend I went out to lunch with a friend. As we walked back to my car we quickly noticed the car parked next to me was extremely close to mine. I honestly wasn't even sure if I would be able to get in.
Both my friend and I made our fair share of remarks about the parking job. I even made it a point to "prove" I was in my lines, therefore placing all the blame on the other driver. As I got into my car, I looked over to be sure I didn't hit the other car with my door. As I did so I noticed the other driver was sitting in the car. Not only that, it was a sweet elderly man annnnnnd to my utter embarrassment, the window was down. 


To say I felt awful would be a huge understatement.  
I drove away feeling like the most inconsiderate and rude person on the planet.   
And that is when it hit me...
 Did I really only feel bad because there was a chance the man in the car heard my remarks about his parking job? Or did I actually feel bad about what I had said?   
I hate to admit it but I'm pretty positive I never would have thought twice about my comments if I hadn't noticed the other driver in his car. In fact, I was feeling pretty good about myself since I wasn't the one who was horrible at parking. (As if I had never committed my own atrocious parking jobs...which, for the record, I have.)   
This got me thinking... How many things do I say each day about others, that if they were listening, I would be completely mortified and ashamed? I like to think I am fairly good about not talking badly about others, however, after this experience I am realizing I have a lot of work to do.   
It is easy for us to point fingers and recognize the faults in others, but are we as willing to admit our own faults? Are the words we speak about others kind and uplifting? Would we be embarrassed to find out that the things we say about others got back to them, or are we confident that everything we say is loving and kind?     
Pointing out the "faults" in the other driver did not make me a better driver or a better person in any way. Just like my experience, when we say or do mean things to others, it does not make us better or lift us up. In fact it does just the opposite.  Save yourself the embarrassment and stomach ache that comes from putting others down and be a "lifter". Do all you can through your words and actions to lift up those around you, and in turn, I promise you will be lifted up as well. 
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