Friday, May 16, 2014

LESSONS LEARNED


 This week I turned the big 2 4. It's crazy. I decided for my birthday I would write down some of the lessons I have learned in my life. Obviously this is not all I have learned, but these are a few of the things I am most grateful for and that have really helped me grow the most and truly helped define who I am today. 

 H I G H   S C H O O L  E N D S ,  L I F E  G O E S  O N 
Whether you loved high school or hated it, one thing stands true; it ends. As I walk the halls of the school I once attended as a teen, now as an employee, I can't help but miss it.  My mom would often say, "You're going to miss this, enjoy it while you can." I look back now and see that she was right. I wish that I had just enjoyed my time there instead of wishing it away. I wish that I hadn't been so concerned about what others though of me and reached out to more people. Life moves on and it often moves on quickly.  So enjoy where you are now, no matter what state in life you are at, and stop wishing life away. 

A L L  Y O U   H A V E  T O  D O  I S  L O V E 
I can remember countless times growing up where my mom would tell me "All you have to do is love." This couldn't be more true. We are not responsible for the way others treat us, but we are responsible for the way we treat them. It is amazing what one simple act of kindness can do to change someone's day or even their life.  People may forget what you did but they will remember how you made them feel. 

E VE R Y T H I N G  D O E S N ' T  N E E D  T O  B E  T A L K E D  A B O U T 
I think as a whole, people have the desire to talk, and at times it is at the expense of another person. We have all heard the phrase "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all." This statement is as true now as it was in kindergarten. It's important to think before you speak. If what you are about to say doesn't fix, help, or lift another person up, then it doesn't need to be said. Negative and belittling comments are just that; Negative and belittling. There is no need for it, ever. Talking bad about others will only make you look bad in the end. 

 P O S I T I V I T Y   I S  A  C H O I C E   
Each morning you have a choice. You can choose to be miserable, or you can choose to be happy. Positivity doesn't come from circumstance, it comes from our thoughts and choices. If you want a happy life, choose to be happy. 

P E O P L E  A R E  G O O D  
I have always been fascinated with people who might be considered "different" from me. Just ask anyone. I have truly one of the most broad and varied group of friends. One day my mom brought in the mail and gave me a letter sent from a friend serving and LDS Mission and one from a friend in Prison. She wasn't even phased by this. That is just the way I was raised. I strive to see the good in everyone. For some people it is often harder to find, but it makes it that much more exciting when I am able to see it come out. Allowing myself to meet and even befriend those who are different from me, and even those with different values and standards, has given me experiences I wouldn't give up for anything. I have learned that as a whole, People are good. Even those who might look, act, or believe differently from you. There is so much to be learned from others and so much good in the world if you are willing to look for it.  

F A M I L Y  C O M E S  F I R S T 
 I am so grateful that I was raised in a family where family was important. There is no relationship that could ever come before the relationship I have with my family. They truly are my very best friends.  

O W N  Y O U R  M I S T A K E S 
This one has taken me forever to understand and learn and at 24 I am still working on it. I HATE messing up. Truly, I hate it. I don't like being wrong or making mistakes. I have had to learn, sometimes the hard way, that I am Human, therefore, I will make mistakes. And you know what? IT'S OKAY. Instead of constantly trying to justify, hide or deny my mistakes I am slowly learning to own them. It makes life truly so much easier and it is the only way to learn to move on and improve. 

H E  A N S W E R S 
One of the greatest things I have ever learned was that I have a Heavenly Father who knows me, loves me, and answers my prayers. He is aware of our deepest desires. He truly is just waiting for us to turn to him and ask. I recently began keeping a list in my phone of experiences where I noticed His hand in my life. It is amazing to see how often he really is there. I began asking and praying for specific things and throughout each day I would be amazed at how quickly and perfectly those prayers were answered. It has been a huge testimony builder for me. Our Father in Heaven is all knowing. He doesn't need us to pray and ask him for things to know what we stand in need of. The reason we are asked to pray and ask is so that our faith in Him can be strengthened as he answers our prayers.  

 As I look back on my life I wouldn't change a thing. Everything I have experienced and every person who has come through my life has helped me in becoming who I am. I am still a work in progress, I am constantly striving to become the person I know I am capable of becoming. I am not there yet, but each day I get that much closer. 

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