If you have an Instagram account and have used it within the last month or so then you are aware of the changes they have been making. At first when I realized that any “spammy” accounts would be removed I thought it was great. However when I noticed my precious 2,500+ followers had reduced to an “embarrassing” 1,996, I was a little less than thrilled. In fact, I am not proud to say it, but I was bugged.
The more I thought about it the more I wasn’t sure if I was actually bugged by my loss of followers or if I was bugged that I was bugged by my loss of followers.
There used to be a time where I was carefree when it came to Instagram. I posted what I wanted to, when I wanted to and never thought twice about losing a follower. Recently things have changed...
Starting BE WISE Magazine truly has been a very interesting business adventure. Something that I know little to nothing about. But one thing I do know, (or have come to know) is that people really care about your “following”. I have been asked a billion times how many “followers” or “subscribers” I have. Sometimes I hesitate to give them the numbers. I mean, there are plenty of people who have outstandingly higher numbers of followers than I do. Why would someone want to collaborate with a regular girl from Utah with a less than impressive social media presence?
Then it hit me. I have been falling into the same trap that I specifically started BE WISE to keep people from falling into. I have been basing my worth on a number. A number of people who, let’s be honest, I probably don’t even know.
I might not have a huge social media following. And guess what, that is ok. Over the space of two years since I started BE WISE I have received a substantial amount of emails or comments from people who have voiced that BE WISE had in some way affected their life for good. If I have helped even one person, then in my mind, I have been a success. I understand that by the world’s standards I might not be, and I have even had “prominent” people opt out of being in my magazine based on my “lack” of followers. While at times that has been frustrating, and even hurt, I know that what I am doing is of worth.
When I came across the quote, “Just because someone has more followers than you it does not make them better than you. Hitler had millions. Jesus had 12,” it really put things into perspective for me. Now don’t get me wrong. I am not comparing myself to Christ and those with lots of followers to Hitler. But I do think this is something we should consider. Today it seems so much of someones worth has been placed on a number. Their number of followers, the number of comments or “likes” on a photo, the number on a scale, the number in their bank account... We often look past the actual individual (even when it comes to ourselves) and base worth on fleeting and meaningless ideals.
I might not have lots of followers. I might not be world famous. But I know I have helped change lives. One of those being my very own. That my friends, is success.
I love the bags under my eyes. Weird right? Find out why in the next issue of BE WISE Magazine coming out in January!
We have a super fun contest and we want EVERYONE to participate! All the entries that follow the requirements will be featured in our next issue of BE WISE Magazine and the winner with the most creative sign will receive a $15 gift card to Sephora! It’s super simple.
1. Follow us on Instagram @bewise__magazine (two underscores)
2. Pick one thing you love about yourself.
3. Make a sign that says “I love my...”
4. Snap a photo of you holding the sign.
5. Email the photo to BEWISEMAG@GMAIL.COM or DM us on Instagram
DEADLINE: Dec. 20th! We can’t wait to see your photos!
This week our “Walk With Christ Challenge" is “Seeking Christ’s Help - PRAYING”.
Why should we pray?
We are commanded to pray and communicate with God and doing so will not only bring us closer to Him, but to our Savior as well. God is all-knowing. He does not need us to tell Him what we stand in need of in order for Him to know. God doesn’t need you to pray. You need you to pray. When we are specific in our prayers, we will be able to recognize how God is specific in His answers. We might not recognize His hand in our life if we are not specific in our asking. God does answer our prayers and it is up to us to recognize those answers.
When I was very young I had to undergo foot surgery. I could not eat before the surgery because of the anaesthesia. As my parents were driving me to the hospital, I sat in the back in my little carseat and politely asked... “Bottle.” My parents knew what that meant. I was hungry. But since they are smart and loving parents they did not give me my bottle. A little while later I asked again... “Bottle.” I was ignored. So I persisted... “Bottle, Bottle, BOTTLE!” As I began crying, so did my mother. She wanted so badly to give me what I wanted. She even began questioning if she was making the right decision in going through with the surgery.
I did not understand why my parents would not give me what I wanted. They had given it to me before, why was this time different? I was upset because I did not understand, and even if they were to explain it to me, I was too young to comprehend. But they knew better than I. If I had gotten what I wanted, it could have been truly life-threatening.
I imagine this is how it is with our Savior and Heavenly Father. They want so badly to give us what we desire. However, they see more of our story than we do. Just like my mother, I am sure our Father weeps as He has to tell us “no", or "not right now”.
Prayer is not meant to align God’s will to ours, but rather our will to God’s. We should not pray demanding to receive but instead pray to understand what is happening in our lives and why. If you aren’t happy with certain aspects in your life, try praying for strength to endure and for understanding.
How can you improve your prayers this week?
How can praying bring you closer to Christ?
What experiences in your life have you had with prayer?
Unless you haven't been on any form of social media in the last year, you've most likely come across this little saying at least once...
"You have the same amount of hours in a day as Beyonce.”
The first time I saw it, I quite liked it. The second, (third, fourth, fifth and sixth) times I saw it, my feelings were a little different...
I often feel overwhelmed with things I need/want to do. If I’m not busy or being productive at all times, I often feel like I’m doing something wrong. The quote “You have as many hours in a day as Beyonce” leaves me feeling more defeated than inspired. If I have as many hours in a day as she does, why haven’t I accomplished the things that she has? The reason is this...
No matter how hard I try and how many hours I actively use each day, I still don’t have the resourses Beyonce has.
I don’t have my own hair dresser, makeup artist, personal trainer or stylists to help me look fabulous each day. I don’t have my own team of incredibly talented PR people. The Beyonce Brand is so successful because there are TONS of absolutely talented people who help make it happen. Unfortunately I do not have any employees like Beyonce.
“Time is money but money is also time. Because Beyonce, as a brand, generates so much revenue, she can spend thousands of dollars to multiply her time, if not millions. By multiplying and increasing the Brand of Beyonce’s time, and therefore expertise, the Brand can make more money.” (www.bearandbeaglecreative.com)
Honestly, some days all I want to do when I get home from a busy day at work is sit on the couch and watch TV with my family. And that is exactly what I did today. I might not have hit the gym like I should have. I didn’t get any cleaning done. I didn’t create a hit single for the world to swoon over. And that’s okay. I spent time with the people I love most. Sure we didn’t “accomplish” much. But we were together.
"Isn’t it true that we often get so busy? And, sad to say, we even wear our busyness as a badge of honor, as though being busy, by itself, was an accomplishment or sign of a superior life.” -Dieter Uchtdorf
Images like this one truly make me sad. There is nothing impressive about aspiring to be someone else. Like me, you might not be famous, have a net worth of $440 Million, sold over 118 million records worldwide, or won 17 Grammy Awards like Beyonce, AND THAT’S OK. Beyonce is Beyonce. You are YOU. She might have an extensive list of accomplishments but one thing she can never be is you. We need to stop striving to be like someone else and instead focus on developing and creating the uniquely beautiful people we are.
Today is the first Sunday in December and also the first Sunday we are starting our "Walk With Christ" project. This is such an exciting and busy time of year and it can be easy to lose sight of what Christmas is truly all about. We hope that as you join us in this challenge that you will feel the true spirit of Christmas and that it will be one to remember.
Each week we will be sharing a new challenge to come closer to Christ. This week our challenge is... Knowing Christ. In order to be close with Him, we first need to know Him.
Matthew 26:39 says, "And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt."
Christ said this during some of his last and most difficult hours. His "thy will be done" approach teaches us two very important things to understand and know about Christ. He has infinite love for God, and infinite love for us.
1. Christ Loves God - It is important to note that Christ did ask if it was possible to "let this cup pass from me". He knew what he was about to do would be exceptionally difficult. However, even knowing that he continues by saying, "nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt."
WHAT WE CAN LEARN - Christ loved His father so much that He was willing to do whatever was expected of Him, even if it was challenging. He had faith in His father and trusted Him even during the most difficult time of his life.
2. Christ Loves Us - Not only did Christ give up his life for us, He suffered every pain and affliction we will ever experience. He has felt everything we will ever feel. He has infinite love for us and understands exactly what we are going through.
WHAT WE CAN LEARN - The Savior gave up His life and completed the unimaginable so that we can live. Christ loves us therefore Christ loves YOU. He knows you personally.
We can come closer to Christ by following His example. Love, follow, and trust in God. Show love to others AND yourself and remember that HE LOVES YOU.
What can you do this week to show God that you love Him?
How can you show love to others this week?
What can you do to feel of Christ's love for you this week?
Yesterday on my way to work I got pulled over for speeding.
Now, I could give you lots of excuses about how I couldn't possibly have been in the wrong and that there is no way I was going as fast as the cop said... but that isn't going to take my ticket away.
As I sat in my car waiting for the cop I was pretty bugged. I mean, can you blame me? Now I was going to be late for work and would most likely have to pay some ridiculously over priced ticket.
When he came back he explained that I was going 40 in a 25... but that he would only ticket me for going 5 over. As I drove away all I could think about was how frustrated I was that I had been pulled over and ticketed.
Later in the day as I thought about it I realized how blessed I really had been. Sounds crazy I know, but its true. Yesterday was probably the first day ever that I had left my house about 10 minutes earlier to get to work because I just happened to be ready extra early. I left thinking this would be great because I could get a little bit of extra work done. I made it to work right on time. I wasn't early like I had planned, but I did make it. Any other day I definitely would have been late.
When the cop told me he would be ticketing me for 5 over instead of 15 my first thought was, "Really, you're not just going to let me off with a warning?" Even though getting a ticket is not ideal, I did deserve it. And he actually did let me off... I would much rather deal with a 5 over ticket than a 15.
Even though this is a very simple example, it really did make me reflect on my last post about being "grateful in all things". I could have let this ticket ruin my day (and to be honest I did let it ruin most of my morning). Or I could look on the bright side, it happened on a day I was going to be early to work and the cop dropped a few MPH off my ticket. So really, I can be grateful even in this situation.
With Thanksgiving right around the corner I'm sure we have all been prompted to consider our blessings and all that we are grateful for. It's easy to be thankful when things are going well for us. But what about during the times of struggle and heartache?
Even during the difficult times in our lives, it is still important to be grateful. In fact, we have been commanded to do so...
In Mosiah 26:38-39 the Lord commands, "give thanks in all things." During this time in the Book of Mormon the people were greatly suffering and yet God still expected them to be grateful.
I don't know about you, but I have never prayed to receive trials in my life. However, I have prayed for strength, inspiration, and personal growth. When these prayers are answered in the form of a trial I never recall jumping for joy. In fact, I probably complained, and in doing so I have not been "giving thanks in all things".
When we look at trials as opportunities to grow, learn, and be strengthened, it is much easier to be grateful for them. God wouldn't ask us to be grateful in all things if it were not possible. He knows that with each experience we can find something to be grateful for. The more we are grateful for all that we have, the happier we will become. We will be less likely to wish for things we don't have and instead begin treasuring all that we do have.
This Thanksgiving I challenge you to be "grateful in all things." Make a list of everything that God has blessed you with, trials and all. Find something in each day to be thankful for and truly give thanks.
***If you or someone you know has endured a difficult trial and come out on top, email us at email@example.com for a chance to be featured in our next issue of BE WISE Magazine.